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RelaxLove

42 / M / Gay / Single

New York, New York

His Details

Last Online
Today – 1:18pm
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m).
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other but not too serious about it
Sign
Scorpio and it matters a lot
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Artistic / Musical / Writer
Income
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly)
My self-summary
I'm smart, funny, cheerful (mostly), and affectionate. I'm also a multi-published children's author. Since I read (and consume all media: TV, movies, music, internet) voraciously, I have lots of little facts, quotes, and pop culture references spewing out constantly . . . along with the occasional original idea. It would be great to find somebody who could get at least a portion of the references so we can hit the common ground running.

I'm mainly a homebody, but I enjoy socializing, too, although I'm not as good of a drinker as I used to be. Generally, I like parties, dinners, and get-togethers better than bars, because it can be tricky to have decent conversations with the music blasting. My favorite activities are just hanging around at home, puttering about on different projects, or wandering on walks through the city.

I love to cook, and I think I'm getting better at it. My Italian grandmother left me with some great recipes and some decent skills.

My sleep schedule is off-kilter; I kind of cycle around a lot, depending on what I need to do. I love naps, and often just sleep on my cats' schedule. Sometimes I'm up all night, and sometimes I go to bed early and I'm up with the dawn. I've never been good at forcing myself into a regimented sleep schedule.

I do my best to be a good guy.

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What I’m doing with my life
Writing children's books. I recently moved to Washington Heights.

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I’m really good at
Writing, reading, editing, watching TV, remembering media trivia, having sudden bursts of insight, listening, fixing things.

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The first things people usually notice about me
People generally don't notice me at first, but then may spot my green eyes and smile; or realize that I'm saying something horribly inappropriate, if funny.

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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Cat's Eye, Poisonwood Bible, Me Talk Pretty One Day, Jitterbug Perfume, Lolita, Harry Potter, etc., etc., etc. I read a lot.

Room with a View, Polyester, Little Mermaid, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Chicago, Princess and the Frog, Topsy-Turvy, The Queen, Up!, All about My Mother, Volver, Bad Education, Spirited Away, Aliens, etc.

Top Chef, Project Runway, American Idol, 30 Rock, RuPaul's Drag Race, Antiques Roadshow, etc.

New Order, Pet Shop Boys, The Smiths, Flaming Lips, Radiohead, Sinead O'Connor, Madonna, Róisín Murphy, Bee Gees, Fleetwood Mac, Nouvelle Vague, cover songs, etc.

Cheeseburgers, bananas, carrots, chocolate, pumpkin ravioli, baked ziti, cookies, grilled cheese sandwiches, pancakes, bagels, sushi, etc.

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The six things I could never do without
Cats
Laughter
Sex
Music
Conversation
Kindle

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I spend a lot of time thinking about
Children's books, personal achievements and failures, work, cats, interesting guys, fixing up my apartment, my friends, odd plotlines, smoking too much, sibilant phrases.

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On a typical Friday night I am
Either working on a project or hanging out with friends.

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The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I would like to settle down with a guy I love and have a family, even if it's just the two of us.

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I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 35–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You need more magic and humor in your life.

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